When everything changed
When my marriage ended, my relationship with my children suddenly felt uncertain. I went from being part of their everyday lives to feeling as though I had been reduced to scraps of time with them.
I do not tell that story to blame anyone. Separation is rarely simple, and children deserve to be protected from adult conflict. I share it because many parents will recognise the fear behind it: the fear that the ordinary, precious parts of being a parent might simply disappear.
Representing myself
At the same time, financial proceedings were placing real pressure on what I could afford. Ongoing solicitor fees were no longer realistic. I filed a C100 application and began representing myself.
I had to learn the language, forms and rhythm of proceedings while living through them. I learned the value of a clear chronology, organised documents, calm communication and keeping the focus on the children — especially when emotions were running high.
I remember wishing for someone steady beside me: someone who understood the practical reality, could help me prepare and would speak to me like a person.
Where it led
Ultimately, the arrangements became equal shared care. I am grateful to be fully present in my children’s everyday lives.
That outcome was right for our circumstances; it is not a promise or template for anybody else. Every family is different, and the court’s decisions turn on the individual evidence and the children’s welfare.
Why I now help others
The Everyday McKenzie Friend grew from that experience. My aim is to give people practical structure and human support: to help them organise what matters, prepare to speak for themselves and walk into court feeling less overwhelmed.
I will be honest about the limits of my knowledge and role. Where a matter needs legal advice, safeguarding support or another specialist, I will say so. Good support includes knowing when someone else is better placed to help.